For most of my adult life, I was the logistics department of a family. Two daughters, a full calendar, a car that always smelled faintly of someone's cheer shoes. I could tell you every shoe size, every allergy, every practice time in a two-county radius. I was good at keeping everyone. Somewhere in there, like so many of the clients I now sit with, I quietly stopped keeping myself.
At work it was the same story. I ran that dental practice alongside my dad, the practice owner and dentist, and his associates. I know what it means to hold a business, a team, and a family at the same time, and to be the person everyone comes to when something needs solving.
Then came a divorce I didn’t plan for, a rebuilding I didn’t feel ready for, and a question that wouldn’t leave me alone: who am I, apart from what everyone needs from me? I know that question from the inside. It’s the reason my practice looks the way it does.
I went back to graduate school in midlife, while mothering, working, and rebuilding a life. It taught me something no textbook could: change is possible, it’s rarely comfortable, and it’s worth it.
How I actually work
In session, we start with your story: the marriage that ended, the kids who grew up, the job that empties you, the anxiety that won’t name itself. Then we work with what is underneath it: what your nervous system learned during the hard years, and the old programs it keeps running long after the chapter has changed. Nervous system regulation is the difference between understanding why you feel what you feel and actually beginning to feel different.
The frameworks I reach for most are ones with real evidence behind them: the window of tolerance for understanding why you swing between wound-up and shut down, affect labeling for taking the charge out of overwhelming feelings, and the research on self-compassion, which shows that people change more readily from acceptance than from shame.
Sessions with me are warm, direct, and occasionally funny, because I am, and because laughter is regulation too. You’ll get a trained counselor who has also lived some of what you are living.
A few true things about me
My happy places are the Carolina mountains and any seat on a plane to Europe. I’m still, in midlife, relearning my own coffee order after years of only knowing everyone else’s. Faith is part of my own story; if it is part of yours, it is welcome in the room, and if it isn’t, this is still fully your space.